30 Dirty and Delightful Epiphanies to Be Grateful for at Age 30

It’s February 16th, 2015 and today is my birthday. My 30th birthday to be exact… The “Dirty Thirty” as I have been told. Just as everyone older than me has pronounced, I myself now think I have enough time behind me to pass on a few things I have learned turning into an old(er) man. I started writing this over three months ago. It is a randomized collection of tidbits and deep thoughts I wanted to put in print, for myself mostly, but maybe also for the world to take in. To ponder and think about and maybe digest and hopefully make an impression upon you. I do not wish to shove it in your face if you may be younger than me, but I just wanted to express those realizations I am glad I can see. Here are 30 downright truthfully dirty, yet definately delightful things, I am glad I realize now at the age of 30:

  1. It is better to give than receive – Not many adults still understand this. There is a force in the world known as “karma” and I am a heavy believer in it at this point in my life. Put good in, get good out.
  2. Memories of events and people mean more to me than any material possession. I cannot think of a single item I have ever owned that compare to family vacations, good times with friends and even the good and bad times of relationships both gone and still in tact. People are the core of existence and without them there is not really much to fight for on a daily basis.

    Mashup of my cutest moments as a baby
    Mashup of my cutest moments as a baby
  3. Don’t forget to let loose. Sometimes you need to be on the ball, sharp and witty. Uptight, ridged, and stuffy. Other times, let it all out! Go all out and not care what onlookers think. Chances are those people will never see you again and you would be unfulfilled if you let a stranger’s opinion hold you back.
  4. I regret things I did not do out of fear of what could have happened more than things I did that ended negatively. Those moments cannot compare to the angst of nights spent wondering what if? Shoulawouldacoulda is far worse a prison than any bars and bricks can be. I once asked a gorgeous coworker I was crushing on. She politely turned down (which is never how rejection is played out in your mind), but glad in the end I went for it rather than to have not believed in myself or that I was not good enough.
  5. When it comes to friendship, quality is far more important than quantity. Think about the time in your day. You do not have time to give the best friendship to everyone yourself, so choose wisely whom you let into your life. Time wasted is far worse than money wasted.
  6. Focus on yourself and the right someone will come into your life. When your focus comes down to the person you wish to be with, you loose the ability to keep them. It is your passion in yourself that originally started a mutual relationship. AKA “Look out for #1”.
  7. I am amazing in ways that I might not see value in or even think they may be poor qualities. I do not focus on what makes me weak, but what makes me strong. My time management skills are not the best, but my ability to tell stories and captivate people far exceeds what I lack in the ability to keep the story to a minimum! Look at my blogs, I have a serious problem keeping a 500-800 ideal word count!!
  8. That a post-secondary education is much less valuable compared to work ethic and reputation. Should have done a trade school or learned a trade I believe; would have been great for bartering and surviving times in my life where money was tight and never had enough. I like have the marketing background, don’t get me wrong, but it is not an “apocalyptic life skill”, meaning it can’t get you by in tough times. Look into something that builds character not a bank account.
  9. If it is too good to be true, it likely is. My dad has uttered this to me often and it typically proceeds an event where I regret the choice I have made. TAKE THIS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE, even if you forget this whole post in an hour, please. I wish I could go back to so many forks in the road and have heeded this. Shouldawouldacoulda!!
  10. Anger is nothing to hold on to, and happiness and joy should be the only emotions you put into your memory bank. I rarely see bad memories in my memories. I think it is psychologically inherent to our survival, but I try to remember those times that were good, when times seem bad. Its good to look back and smile, not frown.
  11. Life is unfair… to everyone, equally. I believe everyone has had their fair share of problems and yours are no bigger than anyone else’s. Think your situation is poor? Well if you have a device and are reading this post with high speed internet, welcome to the small percentage of those in the world who do.
  12. Social class is one of the most vile ideas ever thought up. It has enslaved nations, cautions crimes like; murder homicide and even mass genocide. Einstein may have invented the atomic bomb, but even that pales in comparison to the destructive power of someone believing they are better than someone else. The scale at which it is taken can be unimaginatively devastating.
  13. Arguments are nothing to win or lose. They are an opportunity to compromise, learn something new, try something new, see new perspective, and generally develop a better adult thinking that will help you at work, love, friendship and self-discipline.

    Feb 15, 2015 - My girlfriend Cassie got me some sunflowers to brighten my day after a Valentine's Day of doting on her :)
    Feb 15, 2015 – My girlfriend Cassie got me some sunflowers to brighten my day after a Valentine’s Day of doting on her 🙂
  14. You can get through anything if you stay put in today. “One day at a time” is what Alcoholic Anonymous preaches and I believe it should not be kept with those awesome folks. Everything in small chunks can be solved and remedied.
  15. Their is nothing wrong with my eccentric behavior. In fact, it has been the reason I have been hired, dated and generally helped to maintain and enhance the relationships I have today. While to some it may be a nuisance, more often I find people like that I am loud, hilarious, hard to take serious; as I joke so often, capable of anything, outspoken and heavily opinionated. It is my personality that generates my wonderful ideas, far-fetched dreams, my conversational banter, the questions I ponder and even my responses to others.
  16. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

    “Sometimes you’re flush and sometimes you’re bust, and when you’re up, it’s never as good as it seems, and when you’re down, you never think you’ll be up again, but life goes on.”

    Fred Jung

  17. Value is all yours to define. No one else can tell you what matters most and do not ever let anyone make you question those things you hold highly. Value is easy for one to hold and know in their minds, to explain however, may not be so easy.
  18. Their is no right or wrong path. It is all a journey and how you get through is yours to own. Some may believe they are more right or what you do is wrong. Let them! Those are ther value (taken from point #16).
  19. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up. Determination is the only thing that will get you there. Whether it is getting to work, the laundromat, or the grocery store. Even to your dream job, vacation hot spot or the city you wish to live in next, get out there and do!
  20. Go outside more often. Life is outside. Not inside, on your phone, tablet or found anywhere online. If you have to, before finishing the next 10 points, go ahead! I am long winded and this would be a good place to take in some of what I have said for your own life 🙂
  21. Family is what you make it. I was born last in a family of 3 siblings. There is a good 13 year gap between me and my older brother, so I am technically an only-child by social standards. I have a father-of-few-words and my mom passed away when I was 18. Not that I don’t talk to my family, I love them to death in fact, but the closest people in my life are the friends who call often, stop by and just generally care that I am up and at ’em in life.
  22. Spend more time doing and less time planning. Most of my of plans, both large and small, fall through, on a rough guess. Amongst all the plans, whether it was deciding what to major in in college, or where on vacation; I will all do and see, or just on what dinner plans for tonight will be, I will usually end up not following through all in some form. The time spent planning things, could have actually turned into time doing them. Life is to short and unpredictable to plan, just do it… unless it’s marriage!
  23. When the time comes, you’ll know… and just let it out…. CRY! Cry with someone if you can. If someone needs a good fucking cry let them. You’ll need one sometime too, down the road. Yes guys, it is okay and feels amazing, like an orgasm. Come on and give it a shot!
  24. When you have ideas, don’t dismiss them or hide them because you’re afraid.

     “…You’re entirely bonkers. But I’ll tell you a secret. All the best people are.”

    ― Alice Kingsley

  25. Best time to find a job is when you already have one. My best jobs have come from when I was working and looking for a new opportunity rather than when I was unemployed scavenging for the next paycheck to make ends meet. To an employer looking at resumes, those with a job are more valuable, as there is a reason they are employed (especially in a bad economy). Thanks Craig!
  26. Eat healthy. It doesn’t have to be tofu or bland crap. Find those fruits and vegetables you do like. I have a lot of meat-eating friends and I swear I see rings under their eyes. I just want to shove a wedge salad down their gullet! A well-balanced diet will make all the difference in your day to day from thinking clearly, to waking up early, to fitting into jeans or even performing well in the sack. Put good in, get good out. 🙂
  27. If you’re going to do something, do it right? In love, in life, at work or while playing around. Just do it right. Think about that one… If you are not doing it right, you are not enjoying yourself, so just know that. I think that it’s a powerful way to get the most out of anything.

    Feb 15, 2015 - Cassie and I out hiking in Papago Park in Tempe, AZ.
    Beauty and the Beast – Feb 15, 2015 Cassie and I out hiking in Papago Park in Tempe, AZ.
  28. My mom always said, “if you cannot dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bullshit” and I think that is my greatest asset. I just love this one! It is quite inspiring when you really sit back and think about it. I love you Mom! 🙂
  29. I love me! Not many can say that and I remember times I didn’t always feel that way. I think I am a pretty exceptional human being and I hope I still hold true these values I now realize over the next 30 years.
  30. The best is yet to come. I thought when I was 20 I would have it all figured out by age 30. I viewed the coming of 30 on my 29th birthday as a sign I had been failing the last nine years. Graduate at 22, married by 23, babies by 24, VP at the marketing firm, I was partner now at, because I am so badass: that was the plan! I realize now, that 30 is a milestone to set on “this is who I want to be”, or “this is the persona I will emulate”. There is no reason to rush and I cannot wait to see what I can do with the next 10, 20, 30 years. Who knows what could happeen?

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